Monday, August 16, 2010
Where oh Where...
I guess I should just be grateful that I wrote down/posted what I did, b/c honestly I wouldn't remember half that stuff either!
we were at dinner tonight with some new friends and somehow we got to talking about tate's heart surgery and it made me want to come back and check this blog out and its kind of sad for me that I didn't document it all.
I remember having to do pre-op stuff the day before... I remember freaking out about being late. I remember not sleeping the night before and being a total ball of nerves. I remember how quick the surgery went, because we were told it would take much longer. I remember the sudden feel of relief wash over me like a wave when we finally got to see Tate again right after his surgery, and how tired I felt instantly. I remember he got to leave the PICU really quickly. Like what they took him into the PICU around 5:30 or 6? (see i can't remember) the night before and he got to be discharged to upstairs around noon. (he couldn't have gone sooner, we were just waiting for nurses to finish their lunch so they could transport him). So less than 24 hrs. He slowly but surely lost more and more wires that were attached to him. Until he was just stuck w/ the chest tube (which was really the most annoying one), the blood pressure thing on his foot and the little heartbeat ones hooked to his chest, man i used to know what those were called and now I'm drawing a blank. See what over a year will do to your memory?
So surgery was on a thursday afternoon/evening. So the day after would have been friday and I guess thats where I've left off.
We were moved upstairs to the heart patient area... I can't even remember what floor that was on... 3rd? He had his own room, over in the corner. It was spacious and had a wonderful view. Not that Tate ever saw out of it. That day we spent in that room all day with him. We might have left him at dinner with the nurse, or we may have brought food in, I honestly don't remember. He was still pretty out of it, but we were allowed to hold him. He still had that chest tube in, and he had that for the majority of our time spent there. He was only allowed to leave 24 hours after having the chest tube removed. It was rubbery and whenever he moved, it moved and it "tugged" on him, and if you can just imagine--that wouldn't be comfortable for any of us. But he was a trooper.
Saturday the 4th of July we had some visitors. Ryan's sister Rachel and her boyfriend Nic came to visit. Then that night my sister laura and friend Molly came on their way back from taking care of my older ones. They were our angels, along w/ grammy and nick and susan. It was so nice to be able to focus on Tate and what he needed and to know that Ryley and jackson were being well cared for. That night Ryan went out and got us all Olive Garden for dinner. We ate, then Molly had to go, but laura stayed the night.
Ryan offered to sleep out on the couches in the foyer, so that laura could stay in the room with me. I slept on my handy dandy parent bed, and laura got to sleep on the make shift one on the floor using an extra pad from my bed. (thats how ryan was sleeping too--it worked fabulously.... i'm sure the doctors and nurses thought we were C-R-A-Z-Y... BUT it helped us stay together and that was the best thing for all of us! ok maybe just for me...i can't speak for Ryan and Tate, but i was glad to be together).
That night also since we had such a wonderful few and it was the 4th of July, we got to see over 13 different fireworks shows off in the distance. It was kinda cool. Laura and I watched them, while ryan watched some dumb movie... drillbit something or other. Tate slept. Oh blessed morphin.
While Molly and Laura were there Tate was being all show-offy and was pulling himself up on the sides of his crib/cage. I kept making him stop because hello.... rib cage wired together, and vertical incision down your chest... probably not a smart move!
Its so amazing to me how quickly little babies and children can recover from these MAJOR things. How they just sort of bounce back and how they take it in stride. If I in were tate's shoes, I would have been such a baby! If I ever find myself in those shoes at any point from here on out I will be such a big baby.
Sunday brought more visitors. The Coltons stopped by w/ dinner. We were able to go down to the hospital playroom. Tate LOVED it. We took him naked because thats how he was inthe hospital, no need for clothes. But after we got back the nurse told us we could have put clothes on him. I think by that point he had his chest tube out. Yeah he had to have, because in the playroom he was ALL over the place. A couple days before we left for surgery he learned how to crawl, so he was crawling all over and pulling himself up on things. He was loving every minute w/ the fun toys they had there.
That night we dressed him, and put him in the wagon and walked him around the hospital, and we got ice cream and walked around outside in the garden out front. It was the nicest day we had in the hospital. Its amazing how much better everything is after the chest tube is out.
I forgot to mention that every morning, bright an early while we were there, the surgeon and the cardiologist team would come in around 5:30 or 6am and make their rounds. they'd check on Tate and they'd really only be in the room for a minute. It was always wierd having them there and waking up to that. I'm sure we were a sight to see on our little foam beds in the corner.
After they left, the nurses would get tate completely naked and weigh him. Then they'd take him (diapered back up) down stairs to get xrayed. I hated the thought of him going alone, so I'd always get up and go with them downstairs for the x-ray.
the morning that laura had stayed over (cuz her flight wasn't until the next day), she was fortunate enough to be sleeping on the floor when the nurses undiapered tate and put him on the scale and he peed straight up and over about a gallon of urine all over the floor--some of it landing right on her! lol. he made quite the scene. i think it was that same morning when i went down for the xray with him that it was the hardest one for him yet. it might have been that they were weaning him from the stronger pain meds, or actually now that i think of it and i think the nurse missed a dose in the middle of the night and he had needed another one before they left for the xray but he didn't end up getting it until after.
the hard thing w/ the x ray was that they'd pick him up from his bed and put him on the x ray table. they'd need an x ray of him laying flat on his back, and the nurses would hold him flat and still for that, then the worst part... they'd need a sideview x ray, they would hold him on his side and he did NOT like that one bit. I was so sad for him and so mad that they didn't give him his medicine before he had to go through that. ughhhh...
ok i can erase that thought from my memory now.
Sunday morning right after Ryan left to take laura to the airport they came and removed his chest tube. I thought I was going to have to leave the room for the procedure because it sounded like too much for me, but again I didn't want him to be alone for anything.... and since ryan was at the airport w/ laura I stayed. It wasn't bad, they gave him some morphin before they took it out, even though he'd been off of it by that point. It was a quick procedure. He was so much happier once it was out. And of course we loved that he was happier and we moved that 24 hours later he'd be able to discharge.
It was seriously amazing to me that Thursday afternoon he went into surgery--major open heart surgery-- and monday morning he was released and was able to go home. It was a miracle.
It was so nice to be home and to have all of that behind us. Of course there were the little things like recovery and check ups and such that had to be done... and will continue to be done once a year (the check ups that is)--but for the most part it was over... all that stress and worry.
I could probably go on and maybe i'd remember more the more i take time to remember and process this stuff again, but ryan is climbing into bed-- pretty much kicking me out... well, it just means i have to go to bed now.
I can't believe its been over a year since this all happened and really at this point it doesn't feel real. I know we experienced this. The scar (though barely visible) is a remind to me daily that Tate is our strong little {miracle} man.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
SURGERY DAY!!!
When we got to the hospital we went straight to same day surgery, where we went the day before. This time we were given a little light up device, just like the kind you get when you go to olive garden and there is a wait. I had to register his waiting device in the computer and then we waited for a little bit. I'm sure we didn't wait very long but when you're already anxious as it is it seems a bit long.
Here are Tate's nurses when we got in there. I wish I had thought to get pictures of Tate w/ all his nurses, especially my favorite (Shelley).... these ladies were really only his nurses for like an hour. They said no facebooking them... but this isn't facebook! lol.
When we had to leave for shift change we walked down to the PICU waiting room and sleeping rooms. Ryan was given a room like we had asked for to spend the night in (it was just a room the size of a closet w/ a twin bed in it). And mom and I headed back to the Avery's house so that I could get a good nights sleep.
Ryan went back to see Tate at 8pm and stayed with him and his male nurse "Skyler" until about midnight when he went to the sleeper room to catch some sleep. We were both so blessed to feel calm and confident in the care Tate was receiving to both feel okay to leave him in the PICU alone. I had planned all along to never leave his side. I'm so glad that we did though and were able to get the much needed sleep.
(Stay tuned for the next post.... Post Op: Day 1)
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
July 1st 2009: Pre-Op
First stop was Same day surgery to meet w/ the nurse and surgeon. We met Tate's surgeon who's name was Kouretas. (I'm so proud of myself to NOW a month later be able to pronounce his name... I never could pronounce it while we were there so when people would ask who the surgeon was I always had to say "I don't know.... but I can kinda sorta maybe spell it correctly..." Its pronounced like.... COR-ET-US.) So anyway, we only met w/ them for a short few minutes to get our information about what time the surgery was the next day and all that. We were hoping for a morning surgery, but we were scheduled for 1:30 in the afternoon. It ended up being fine and probably actually better that way, if you ask me.
Next stop was the lab for blood work and a urine sample. The blood work was quick (but I won't say painless).... then they put a bag on him to collect the urine and we waited... and waited.... and waited.... and waited.... I nursed him two or three times and still nothing. We put his feet in warm running water... and nothing. About this time we had a visitor. Sister Colton (from our parents' ward back in MD was in town) stopped by to give us a thoughtful gift. It was coloring books and crayons, etc. to help distract us during the waiting hours of surgery. So sweet.
After an hour or more of waiting for Tate to pee we gave up and asked if we could go to the x-ray while we waited for him to pee. They said yes, so off we went to x-rays...
Friday, July 3, 2009
Surgery is a Success!!
This is in Pre-Op "3". We sat in these rocking chairs for a long time waiting to be taken back for the surgery. Tate was super hungry and eventually gave up and fell asleep. He was sleeping when I handed him off to the anestialogist @ 2pm.
6:30pm was when we were allowed to go to the PICU to go see Tate for the first time. So only 4 1/2 hours from the time we said "goodbye" till we got to say "hello" again.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
And.... We're Off!!!
Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers for our family and especially for Tate. This whole experience feels quite surreal still at this point. I'm very calm. Part of me knows its because of all the prayers on our behave and because its from Heavenly Father letting us know that everything is going to be okay.... and part of me wonders if I just haven't quite processed that fact that it really is going to happen tomorrow....
Anyway... we're off... SLC here we come!!!
Monday, June 15, 2009
Our Insurance Rocks!
Anyway... on to why they're really awesome! So the end of May I called the insurance company to have Tate's surgery pre-authorized. I felt so dumb talking to the lady on the phone because she asked questions like "who is the surgeon?" so she could contact him and verify everything... I didn't know the answer... I actually still don't know that answer! We will find out who the surgeon will be the day before the surgery. So I ended up only being able to tell her Dr. Judd's name and gave her the same phone number I have, that never led me to anyone helpful at all, during that run around period of trying to get the results of Tate's tests done at Primary's.
Fast foward to the following week. Ryan kept getting calls AT WORK from the insurance company's Melaleuca representative. When ryan got the messages that this person was trying to get a hold of him, he thought it was some mistake.
So he finally called the guy back and found out that he was calling to let Ryan know that Tate's surgery has been pre-authorized. That they got everything verified and then also wanted to check on us and make sure we were alright, and to see if there was anything else we needed. The guy was super nice and very supportive about this hard situation for us.
How awesome is that? Seriously, I've never heard of insurance companies caring so much and going out of their way to lend their support. And what a weight off our shoulders to know that everything is squared away with the insurance company and that Tate's surgery is covered.